Writing your perfect wedding thank you notes is easy with this simple guide! While each couple’s process is different, following these general guidelines will help you plan, write and send perfect wedding thank you notes! Let’s get started!
01 – Start Early
It may seem early to start prepping your wedding thank you notes after your engagement, but getting a head start will save you time (and stress) when the gifts start coming! When you make your wedding guest list, include a column for wedding gifts and thank you notes. All your notes will be in the same place and you’ll avoid the last-minute scramble to find Uncle Jerry’s address.
02 – Pick Beautiful Stationary
Picking stationary makes the writing process fun! There are many different stationary companies at all price levels. I love supporting local artists and printmakers who create unique, custom designs for your big day. One of my favorite stationary companies in Chicago is Sarah Drake Design (pictured). SSD creates semi-custom wedding invitations, day-of stationary and more!
03 – Grab a cup of your favorite tea (or wine) and write (for 30 minutes)
Between your engagement and “I do’s” (and even after the wedding), you’ll be receiving gifts. I suggest writing your notes as soon as the gifts start arriving. Don’t try to write them all in one sitting! Instead, set aside 30 minutes each day to get a handful done.
An awesome thing about being in a partnership, is the extra set of hands! There are different ways to split the workload…some couples split their list down the middle, while others split them based on their relationships with the guests. It’s up to you!
04 – Keep them short, simple and personal!
You’ll be writing a lot of thank-you notes, so try to keep them short and focus on personal details. Below are a few examples of wedding thank you notes:
Physical Gift: Mention the item and how you’ll use it!
Dear Sean and Jackie,
Thank you for coming to our wedding! We were so happy to be surrounded by our friends and family. We were so happy to receive our dish set, and we look forward to using them in our new kitchen for years to come!
Jamaal and Sarah
Cash Gift: Avoid mentioning the dollar amount and share how you’ll use the money.
Dear Aunt Judy,
We were so happy to see you at our wedding! It wouldn’t have been the same without all of our family and friends! Thank you for your generous gift. We’re one step closer to our kitchen remodel! Looking forward to seeing you this summer!
Sam and Kathy
Group Gift: Send each individual a separate thank you.
Thank you for coming to our wedding! Your dance moves rocked and brought life to the reception! We were so excited to receive our beautiful espresso maker. We’re so thankful for your contribution and are excited to wake up to fresh coffee every morning! Coffee date soon? Thanks again for thinking of and celebrating with us during this special time!
Carl and Lucy
A Gift you Don’t Like: Focus on your appreciation rather than the gift.
Dear Bob and Joan,
Thanks for coming to our wedding! Our amazing friends and family made the day special! Thank you for the antique Elvis sculpture. Every time we look at it, we think of you we’re reminded of our special day. Thanks for sharing our joy on our wedding day!
Jan and Graham
A Gift from Someone you Don’t Know: Connect them with a family member or friend.
Thank you for the lovely serving platter. It will be the centerpiece of our open house party this summer! My mom has spoken so fondly of you; we’re excited to meet you at our wedding. Thank you for your generosity and contribution to our special day!
Sam and Taylor